Why you can’t ‘cheat mother nature’ Story on DAILY MAIL website…
High flying former head of finance Carol Robinson, 43, delayed starting a family in favour of a career. She came to Featureworld because she wanted to warn other women against making the same mistake…
As a high-flying businesswoman for years Carol Robinson thought she had it all. Working in 17 countries, she held down some top jobs in banking.
She was one of the few women in the world of banking to break through the glass ceiling. She believed she had control of her life. In her late thirties her life seemed to be going to plan even more when she met her husband, a surgeon.
When decided to have children and didn’t see too many difficulties. After all, her husband is a few years younger than Carol and both of them are healthy. Plus Carol was always seeing articles about women who’d had children later in life.
But mother nature was to deliver Carol the cruellest blow of all. Despite seeking fertility treatment, she failed to get pregnant.
So when she found out after a number of years of trying, she was pregnant naturally, Carol felt she had cheated Mother nature’s rule that women can’t have babies in later life.
However, tests revealed Mother nature was going to intervene again when doctors told the couple their little boy had Down’s. Down’s Syndrome is of course more common in an older mother.
That was a crushing blow – and both of them were devastated. But while they could have opted for abortion, they decided to welcome Harvey and do their very best for him. Sadly despite their best efforts he only lived for a month.
What has happened has been a huge shake up to Carol. She feels her extraordinary career has almost been pointless. What has been the point of her life if she has no-one to provide for? In hindsight she looks back and sees that when she was in her twenties and early thirties, she didn’t even consider settling down. Meeting a husband, getting married, having a family, was something she believed she could and should do in her late thirties.
She now believes that was the wrong decision.
She holds onto the fact that she was a mum, if only for four weeks, and she hasn’t given up hope that she might be lucky enough to have another baby. However it might well be too late.
It is ironic that considering she never takes anything but the most calculated risks in her business, she left the most important thing in her life – having a baby – to chance.
Carol wanted to tell her emotional story as a cautionary tale to other women about leaving motherhood later in life. Her story appeared on the Daily Mail website.
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