Cheating husband story in TAKE A BREAK magazine…
After her unfaithful husband story appeared in The Sun newspaper, I was delighted to find Gill Farrington a great deal with Take a Break mag!
Gill’s extraordinary story about how Paul Dunstan deceived her appeared on the front cover and also over two pages of the weekly women’s real-life magazine.
Gill and Paul had already split but were still wed when she spotted a photo of him marrying again on Facebook.
After denying it was a ‘real wedding’ to his new girlfriend, Gill put it to the back of her mind. But incredibly a few months later Paul uploaded new wedding photos to Facebook.
This time it turned out he really had gone through a proper ceremony at Gretna Green registry office. Gill reported him to the Police and he was found guilty of bigamy.
Needless to say the couple are now divorced and unsurprisingly Paul married his girlfriend again – albeit this time legally.
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My cheating husband had two weddings behind my back!
By Alison Smith-Squire
GETTING WED is a joy.
But when Gill Farrington’s young son told her his daddy, her ex, was getting married she was far from happy.
Paul Dunstan could not be marrying, because SHE was wed to him.
Although she and her ex hubby had split, they were still officially spliced.
However the silly Romeo had decided one wife was not enough – as Gill discovered wedding pictures from TWO separate big days of Dunstan and his new partner on Facebook.
The brazen groom had not only bragged about his big days by uploading the snaps to the social media website – their son Cody, 11, was in a snap.
Horrified Gill realised her ex was guilty of bigamy.
Shocked she shopped Dunstan, who had printed a fake Decree Absolute to convince his new wife, to police and he was arrested.
In February this year he was sentenced to a 200 hours community payback order for fraud at Dumfries Sheriff Court.
Stunned Gill says: “I was disgusted when I discovered Paul hadn’t even bothered to wait until our divorce came through before remarrying.
“I was even more shocked to see our son Cody photographed with him at his first wedding. It infuriated me that he could involve his own son in his web of lies.
“So I felt no guilt at going to the police about what he did.”
Project manager Gill, 44, who met Dunstan in 1994 could not believe the reserved man she fell in love with, when they played in the same marching band, could ever be capable of a criminal act.
She says: “We were opposites, he was quiet, unassuming and laid-back whereas I’m more outgoing. But he had a great sense of humour and we really hit it off.
“Within a few days we began dating and within a year we’d bought a house together.
“Friends nicknamed Paul ‘Perfect PD’ as he always seemed so steady.”
Gill gave birth to their first son Jamie, now aged 18, proposed to him and the happy couple married three years later and went on to have their second son, Cody.
While to the outside world the family seemed perfect, cracks began appearing in the relationship.
Gill says: “When I got pregnant with Cody I gave up being in the marching band, and I realised it was the only thing Paul and I had in common.
“I was working away as a business analyst Monday to Friday, with my parents caring for the kids when Paul, who worked as an engineer for a brewery, was working in the day.
“Meanwhile at night he was often out playing in his tribute band, and we just drifted apart.
“One day I came home from work and just said I didn’t want us to be married anymore.
“The passion had gone out of our relationship and we were simply friends existing together because we had children.”
For two years the pair shared a home, living separate lives until Dunstan announced he had met another woman and moved out of the family home to live with her in Chester.
Gill from Tipton, West Midlands, says: “Things were amicable between us and although I didn’t meet Paul’s new partner, I even paid the £800 deposit on their rented home.”
Sadly relations soured when the pair began rowing over the kids.
She remembers: “Our eldest, Jamie, left to live with his dad as it was near to the college he wanted to go to. Although Cody remained with me and I was happy to let him stay with his dad, Paul wanted to see him more often.”
Dunstan filed for a divorce in 2012 and the couple both consulted solicitors to oversee the split. But after a visit to see his dad a year later Cody came home with some news.
Gill says: “He said: ‘Daddy’s getting married again.’
“I explained that wasn’t possible because daddy was still married to mummy. But he kept on saying it and I knew Cody wouldn’t be lying.”
Later she clicked on Facebook and was stunned to see a message posted by a mutual friend, which read: “Sending thoughts and good wishes to two wonderful friends for their big day tomorrow. Have a fantastic wedding day and a long and happy future life together.’
Gill says: “Paul and his partner were both tagged in. My stomach lurched in shock.”
The following day photos of the happy couple were posted on Dunstan’s profile, with Gill’s son joining in.
She says: “I was so angry. I immediately contacted all of our mutual friends who’d posted them and said I wanted any with Cody in them to be removed. I also said Paul couldn’t possibly be married as he was still married to me.”
“It turned out Paul and his partner hadn’t really married. They’d booked the wedding at a hotel but the divorce hadn’t come through in time. It was too late to cancel so they continued with the celebrations as a ‘blessing’ instead.
“However I was furious when Cody told me daddy said the registrar couldn’t make it as he’d got stuck in traffic. Paul had involved our son in a fake wedding.”
With the offending photos removed, Gill put the incident behind her.
But Cody came back from a stay with his dad a couple of months later once again saying he was getting wed.
Gill recalls: “Incredibly when I clicked on Paul’s partner’s Facebook page I could hardly believe my eyes. For there were new photos of his new recent wedding, along with more congratulations from friends.
“But this time the pair of them were sat on a chair in front of a round window, and it looked like it was taken at an official venue.
“I was shocked he’d had a second fake wedding.”
With her heart thumping, Gill turned detective and rang Chester register office but they had no record of a Mr Dunstan marrying there.
She then Googled photos of registry offices. More photos of the familiar chairs in front of a round window emerged – from Gretna Green in Dumfries and Galloway, Scotland.
Hands shaking, she dialled the number for Gretna Registration Office.
She says: “I gave the woman Paul’s name and she said she would check. When she asked why I was inquiring I replied: “Because I’m his wife and he’s still married to me.
“My hunch was correct, she confirmed Paul and his partner had married in Gretna Green just a few days ago.”
“I still couldn’t believe Paul could actually do such a thing, but when I rang him he admitted it.
“He said he was worried his new partner would leave him if he didn’t get married.
“He’d downloaded a fake Decree Absolute from the internet and he was sorry. He hoped we could still divorce and it would be OK.
“But when I spoke with my solicitor he said I had to go to the police. After all, Paul had broken the law. And what sort of example had he set to Cody by telling him he was getting married when legally he couldn’t? I felt so angry.
“Whatever had happened between us, Paul and I were together for 13 years and married for nine. I never thought I couldn’t trust him.”
Dunstan was arrested. While waiting for the case to come to court, Gill and Dunstan’s divorce was finalised.
She says: “I have no idea why Paul didn’t just wait until he could legally marry.
“I can only imagine what his new partner had to say when she discovered after Gretna Green they weren’t really wed after all.”
In February this year, at Dumfries Sheriff Court, Dunstan pleaded guilty to fraud and was sentenced to a 200 hours community payback order.
However, that was not the end of Dunstan’s weddings.
In November last year Gill logged on to Facebook to see Dunstan and his partner had once again uploaded wedding photos and this time the wedding was legal.
Gill, who is currently single, has no wishes to rush into marriage in the future.
She says: “What Paul did has been a huge betrayal of trust.
“The last few years have been a nightmare. And after this, I don’t think I could ever trust any man again.”